Thursday, October 23, 2014

The Difference Between Positive Thinking & Positive Noticing

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To get right to the point: one is magical or wishful based and the other is evidence based.

Furthermore, positive thinking tends to be future based and positive noticing is solidly in the now.

For example: Telling people that if they "just" "vibrate" at a level of gratitude, they will attract more to be grateful for is the kind of simplistic thinking that actually makes me MAD, because it can lead -- just like all that really shitty "why did you get this disease?" line of "thought" -- to victim creation and shame and self blame.

(Wee side note...we are vibrating gratitude to attract more to be grateful for? That seems antithetical to the true nature of gratitude...)

What if I am working really hard to feel or "vibrate" gratitude and then some extremely difficult life-stuff happens? Perhaps I am not "vibrating" enough or correctly?!

Or perhaps there is something wrong with me at my core, something that makes me incapable of calling forth goodness into my life?

See how that can go?

Here's the TRUTH of this: If you NOTICE things to be grateful for in your life, if you take the time to really be aware of all the little stuff, you WILL notice MORE to be grateful for. And not because you vibrated it TO you but because...drum roll....

WE NOTICE WHAT WE LOOK FOR AND WE FIND WHAT WE EXPECT TO FIND.

It's always all there but we aren't always noticing.

Let's repeat this together: WE NOTICE WHAT WE LOOK FOR AND WE FIND WHAT WE EXPECT TO FIND.

We buy a white car and then we have white car on the brain so all of a sudden, MY GOD, there are so many white cars in the world!

No. White car is just in our line of sight now in a way it wasn't before.

This is really basic human brain stuff.

If we expect to wake up tomorrow still depressed, we will and we will find more reasons to be depressed. We will take actions or not based on the assumption of negative outcomes.

If we expect to wake up tomorrow still happy, we will and we will find more reasons to be even happier. We will take actions or not based on the assumption of positive outcomes.

Those actions then create more evidence.

EVIDENCE based.

Evidence BASED.

All the evidence we need for any mood or mode of thinking already exists. We CHERRY PICK. That is what humans do.

((yum...cherries...))

There is no meaning. You make meaning. And you make it after the fact.

The universe is not a conscious being taking action for or against you. YOU do that. And you do it from a choosing place, whether that is conscious or not.

When we dance, when we get in the body, we are observers of all these mechanisms in the micro-laboratory of our own bodies. That is why getting in to the body in this way is so important; it's the first step to being able to observe all of our choices and not mistake them for something they aren't.

Then, from this place of conscious observation, we can begin to make choices and take actions that lead to our most desired results.
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